The squirting orgasm is the star of many fantasies, controversies and general astonishment. Is it real? Is it pee or something else coming out? Get answers and guidance on how to have a squirting orgasm yourself here
The squirting orgasm is a type of orgasm people with vulvas can experience, where liquid squirts or leaks out of the vagina. Like with the clitoris and the rest of the anatomy of the vulva, very little research has been done into the squirting orgasm. The lack of information on the subject has given the squirting orgasm a myth-like status, and porn is the primary source of information. But porn is not an accurate or in any way true reflection of reality. And while there is not complete consensus, some also believe that female ejaculation and "squirting" (which is mostly know from porn) are actually two different things, not synonyms. Colloquially both types of squirting orgasm is just known as squirting.
The first type, female ejaculation, is when a liquid is released from the Skene's glands, which are located around the lower end of the urethra. The Skene's glands are not completely understood yet, but some believe it is people with vulvas prostate. This is because the fluid which is released here can be slightly white, little thicker than water and contain a prostate-specific antigen, which can also be found in semen. In a way you can call female ejaculation sperm without sperm cells.
The second type, squirting, is when a clear liquid is released from the urethra. This liquid can contain pee, as it originates in the bladder and exits through the same tube, but it's not pee! The liquid contains glucose (natural sugars), fructose (another natural sugar) and creatinine (waste product from the muscles).
Have you tried a squirting orgasm?
Some studies show that up to 50 % of people with a vulva have experienced some type of squirting. But because porn has contributed to the sensationalization of squirting, many people believe that it's supposed to be a wild and crazy water show. That also explains why some refer to it as a fountain orgasm. But squirting is not always like a fountain - for some it's a gentle little stream of liquid, and for others it's so gentle they might not even notice it and just feel a little wetter than usual.
Some people that experience a squirting orgasm love it, while others feel ashamed and embarrassed. The lack of information on the subject, as well as wild misinformation in society and media help create unrealistic standards for what the body is and can do, and it affects the way we view squirting orgasms too. A lot of people have also been taught that sex is supposed to be clean and "proper", and the squirting orgasm is very far from this puritan view. But squirting orgasms are not dirty or wrong, and neither are you. It can feel a little weird and surprising the first time you try it, but practice makes perfect, and squirting orgasms can be a fun way to get in closer contact with your body.
How can I get a squirting orgasm?
There is not one particular way that works for everyone, but some methods are more effective than others. Like when you're having a "regular" orgasm, it's important to relax. Being intensely focused on achieving an orgasm can make it impossible, squirting or not. So give yourself the space and time, and stop if it's just not happening this time - you can always try again. It's also a good idea to be well hydrated, as it can be a little hard squirting if you're totally dehydrated. The last prep work you can do is peeing. Many people compare the feeling of having a squirting orgasm with the sensation of having to pee, so it's a good idea to pee first. Then you avoid the confusion and the urge to tighten up, when you're supposed to relax.
And now you're ready! Start by stimulating your G-spot. You can read more about it in our guide here, but long story short it's an area located about 2-5 centimers inside the vagina. If you insert a finger and bend it in a "come-here" shape in the direction towards the pubic bone, thus hitting the front (anterior) wall of the vagina, you're in the right place. It can take patience and strong arms to get a squirting orgasm, so it's a good idea to use a sex toy made specifically for the G-spot. The Arc vibrator from Dame Products is curved and has a broad top, which make it perfect for massaging the G-spot. This dildo made from steel from Njoy is also great for the purpose. The large curve and hard material gives a very intense stimulation of the G-spot. The same can be said for glass, where the Amber glass dildo is a great choice. Steel and borosilicate glass is also compatible with all kinds of lube, so you can use a silicone-based lube, which will last longer than water-based lube. Squirting orgasms can take time, so a long-lasting lube is a good idea.
The more you stimulate the area, the more it feels like fluid is building up in the pelvis. Allow this feeling, even though it's a bit weird, and try to relax your muscles as much as possible. When you're at the point where it really feels like you're about to pee, some can achieve a squirting orgasm by simultaneously stimulating the clitoris. It's a good idea using a smaller clitoris stimulator, as it's easier to navigate while also holding a G-spot dildo. The Clamy stimulator and the Eva ll Hands-Free vibrator from Dame Products are examples of smaller, but still wonderfully powerful clitoris stimulators.
It can take a lot of time and practice getting a squirting orgasm. Squirting orgasms especially occur when you're relaxing your muscles completely and not fighting the sensation of having to pee. But most of us instinctively react by tightening the muscles when feeling the urge to pee, and it can be a little challenging unlearning many years of behavior. You might find it easier to work on your breathing or on strengthening your pelvis, which can give you better control. Give our guide to training the pelvis a read, and get some good tips on how to get started.
Last tip: don't expect a squirting orgasm the first time you try. High expectations can make you nervous, which makes getting any orgasm harder. Instead, view it like a little journey of pleasure, where you're stimulating and taking care of your self and the result, but not the goal, can be a squirting orgasm.