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My name is Line and I've been participating in the swinger scene for a year and a half now. I was tired of one night stands, where ejaculation was usually the goal and where I was often too drunk to remember if the sex was good or bad the day after. In general, I thought I had had too little sex in my 25 years of life and I wasn't even aware of what I liked and what I didn't like sexually, so that was my starting point for embarking on my swinger adventure.
Swinger clubs and me being a club goer have been met with quite a lot of prejudice. I can't say I've been free of prejudices before I entered the environment either, but many of them I've put to rest. At first, I didn't plan to tell my friends about my time in the swinger community, but I was drawn in and simply felt I had to share my impressions and experiences because I was simply caught with my pants down - literally.
I see the clubs now as a place where I don't have to remind my sex partners to use a condom and where there are always some people around you - so that's why it's the safest place I've ever had sex with strangers. You simply avoid having to go home with strangers and discuss whether or not a condom is a good idea. Likewise, I also see the clubs as a kind of sanctuary for my head, where thoughts of everyday life and work are left in the closet with the rest of my clothes, and then I am 100% present in my body and its desires. The environment is also quite liberating because everything can be talked about, from the weather, politics, sex positions and latex. The community is also liberating because your social class is left with your clothes, so everyone is somehow more equal and you don't know if you're having sex with the manager, the janitor or the taxi driver.
I've also been to clubs without having sex, but just socializing with people and drinking soda.
Some of the prejudices I had even before I started going to swinger clubs were that there were a lot of old men, that it was a bit of a sleazy place, that there was a lot of varnish and latex and it was mostly people with very particular sexual desires who came to the club.
Of course there are old men, but there are also many young men and women, which surprised me. There are also themed nights for young people under 35 and there tend to be quite a few participants, so if you're not into the older stuff, it might be a good idea to come to one of those.
I was surprised at how nice it was at the main club I go to. The lighting is subdued, of course, but it's not as sleazy as I'd imagined. Of course, it also helps that you spend time and have experiences there, because then you understand better why leather furniture is a good idea and why it can be comfortable with a carpet in the bar - because you might suddenly feel like screwing while drinking coffee 😉
Apart from some leather furniture, I don't think many people come to the club I go to wearing dog masks or latex suits. In my experience there are some clubs that have more of a reputation for being extra kinky both in the mindset of the people and in their attire - so in that way there is something for everyone.
Most clubs hold different themed nights such as tantra night, BDSM school, bisexual nights or nights for young people. So it might be a good idea to check out these theme nights if you are new to the environment and you know what you like, because you can get inspired and learn more about the given theme.
An evening at a swingers club
I almost always have a tingling feeling in my stomach on the way to a club. The feeling tingles with anticipation of something naughty, thoughts of what I want to do that night and I have so much excitement in my stomach. I arrive and the hostess greets me in the lobby. I take off my clothes and, for the occasion, have chosen to wear a red set of underwear that makes me feel nice, naughty and a bit innocent. I don't have any appointments with anyone, so I see what the options are at the club, and see if there's anything that can lure the innocence out of me.
I walk around the club, as I usually do, to see who's there, how many people are there and what they might be doing. There aren't that many in the bar, but up on the first floor there are various people doing something naughty. A couple is kissing in the large open space on the first floor, a woman is lying on a bench while a man is taking good care of her lower area with his mouth. I stand and watch the woman's pleasure and am captivated by their energy. I make eye contact with the man and smile at him. After watching them for a while, I decide to see what else is going on in the club.
After a tour of the house, nothing else caught my attention, but I thought the couple on the first floor were just too damn naughty. So I go upstairs again, the man meets my gaze and smiles and now the woman is looking at me too. The man leads the woman to the floor, stands behind her and asks me to join him. I nod and smile and walk over to them. I tell them that I am new to the environment but that I think they are hot. They smile and say we'll just take it slow.
The man and I start by kissing the woman on her body. Our eyes meet and she smiles at me. I kiss the woman on the mouth, while the man still spoils her body with kisses and touches. She takes me by the hand and leads me over to the bench on which she was previously pampered on. I lie down and they now start touching and kissing my body. She fondles my breasts while touching my legs. Her gaze meets mine and I sense our energy meeting. We start breathing the same way and our gaze becomes more and more intense. I can feel the energy gathering in my body and can feel my pelvic area contracting, despite no one touching it.
I have my first orgasm purely from the energy and not from touching my intimate area - it felt crazy and I'm a bit flustered because I haven't tried or heard of anything like this before. As I look around I now see that there are 15 people around us and quite a few are masturbating. This brings me back to reality and I can feel that I need to decompress for a bit, so I say thanks for the experience and go down to the bar to get a drink. After a while the couple comes down and asks if I'm okay, which I say I am, but that it was just overwhelming. I don't play with the couple again that day.
But I also don't see anyone else in the club I want to do naughty things with, so I end the night masturbating in the club's cinema, where porn is being shown.
Since then, I've discovered the many different ways I can orgasm from: by touch, energies, sounds, etc. And have found out that my secret to it is to put the contents of my head in the closet, where I also put my clothes.