How to get started with rimming
Everyone has an asshole and everyone can both give and receive the pleasure of rimming. If you and you(r) partner(s) would like to take oral stimulation to the next level, rimming could be the perfect option. Read on and get some great tips to get started
What is rimming?
Rimming, rimjob, biting the peach. The act has many names, but simply refers to licking and stimulating a partners anus with your mouth. There are a lot of reasons to enjoy a little rimming - there are a lot of nerve endings in and around the anus, which makes the area very sensitive to stimulation. Rimming is also perfect for those who would like some anal stimulation, without necessarily also being penetrated.
The general technique is to lick, but you can easily improvise a little and move the tongue around, making it more pointed or more flat - there are so many nerve endings in the area that you're very likely to find your way to a spot that feels good to stimulate. You could try moving the tongue around the opening itself, or maybe on the perineum. You can also try experimenting with kissing, circulating or lightly blowing air on the area.
You can also, thanks to this rimming buttplug, experience a rimjob without a helping partner. The shaft of the buttplug can rotate and vibrate, which simulates the movements from the mouth. If you're using the plug on the outside, it can definitely be recommended to use a water based lubricant.
How to get started
It can be difficult for a lot of people, maybe especially people with a penis in heterosexual relationships, to ask for or even just talk about anal stimulation with their partner. Prejudice and taboo surrounding it means that a lot of people connect the anal area with homosexuality, thus making rimming something people with a penis cannot enjoy, if they identify as heterosexual. We would like to emphasize that if you identify as heterosexual, you won't suddenly be something else, just because you enjoy anal stimulation - you are the only one who knows and can define your sexuality. And once you move past this unnecessary restriction of what heterosexual or people with a penis can enjoy, you'll discover the many health benefits connected to anal stimulation. By stimulation the anus, you can also stimulate the prostate, which lowers the risk of prostate cancer.
A lot of people also avoid anal stimulation out of fear of not feeling clean. That is such a shame, as anal stimulation can really open up to a new side to pleasure. Luckily, it's easy to do something about that feeling. Maybe you can take a shower before rimming, maybe with your partner(s) as a part of the foreplay, or you could use an anal douche, like this one. Fill up the douche with water in a body safe temperature, and insert the tip right into the opening of the rectum, NOT all the way up. It can be a good idea to use a little water based lube on the tip for an easier insertion, so you don't get little scratches. By slowly pressing on the bulb, you can now flush the anal canal. Repeat until you feel clean or until a clear, slimy substance comes out. A rule of thumb is to never spend more than an hour flushing through, as you risk "over cleaning" and disrupt the delicate environment in your rectum. You also risk trapping water in the canal, which might be released at a later time, where you might not have the possibility to empty it out in the toilet. It is especially when lying down on your back or on your side that you released trapped water, which also happens to be the most typical positions for a rimjob. So for the same reason, if you want to douche before rimming, it's a good idea to do it a little while before, and not immediately before, so all the water has had the possibility to leave the rectum.
If you want to be completely comfortable during rimming, you can also use dental dams. The thin piece of latex gives a protecting layer, but is still thin enough for you to feel the nice sensation of a tongue.
