Never mind where the clitoris is – what is it even?
The vulva is a wondrous and wonderful sex organ, and there's a real opportunity for sensational experiences if you know your way around.
Good sex is first and foremost about learning about your own body, but also about the bodies of any partners. Although each of us has different preferences, it doesn't hurt to refresh our knowledge. Perhaps you even stand to learn something. Some people believe that they already know everything they need to know. Us, on the other hand? We're all about staying curious and open to learning new things.
Pubic bone
If you notice a hard bone at the top of the vulva where the pubic hair starts, this is the genital bone. It has a joint in the middle that you can't really feel, but this joint is essential as it allows the pelvis to expand during pregnancy. If you've ever heard talk of mons Venus, this is the high-fat skin area on the outside of the pubic bone. This is also where the pubic hair sits.
Labia
The vulva has two sets of labia. The outer labia are on the outside and covered with ordinary skin and hair, while the inner labia are covered with mucous membranes. We have mucous membranes in the oral cavity as well. Many people's inner labia are longer than the outer ones, so you can see them even if the person is standing upright. The mucous membranes are delicate, and you should generally be careful with tight trousers, panties or panty liners, all of which can irritate.
Clitoris
The most often discussed part of the vulva is probably the clitoris. The truth is that the penis and clitoris have a great deal in common. In fact, they're inseparable in the initial weeks of the fetal stage. At this stage, it's a small peg that will either develop into either a penis or a clitoris, depending on biological sex. Both organs grow through blood supply during sexual arousal. Perhaps this is also why stimulation of the penis head and clitoris can be so similar in the sense that it can be incredibly nice but sometimes too sensitive.
However, the clitoris holds twice as many nerve endings as the penis! The clitoris has 8,000 nerve endings, whereas the penis has 4,000.
The visible part of the clitoris is a small dot or bump at the top of the vulva, where the inner labia meet. But the party doesn't stop there. Some researchers believe that the clitoris extends up to 10 cm behind the pubic bone. Others believe that the inner part of the clitoris is what we call the G-spot. More on that in a bit.
The urinary tract opening
Under the clitoris, on the inside of the inner labia, you find the urinary tract opening. During penetration, the opening can be subjected to some friction and touch, so it's always a good idea to pee after sex to avoid bacterial infections, such as cystitis.
The vagina
Just below the urinary tract opening, between the inner labia, you find the entrance to the vagina. The more turned on you are, the moister the vagina becomes, making penetration easier. Some people have a harder time getting wet than others, and if that's the case, lube can be a lifesaver. The vagina is about 8-12 cm deep, and the walls inside the vagina consist of muscles that contract during orgasm. The walls are covered with mucous membranes, which protect and moisten the vagina.
The G-spot
Alright, it's time to take a closer look at the next popular hit: the G-spot. Some will probably be disappointed to hear that there's no evidence that the spot actually exists. That said, many people swear it's a source of great pleasure. It's located about 2-5 c up in the vagina and faces the pubic bone, so you can find it by making a hook with your finger.
Whether the G-spot and clitoris have a connection is a subject of great debate. Given that the clitoris has an invisible part that extends into the vulva, there's good reason to think that the G-spot is the spot in the vagina where the clitoris ends, so to speak. At the end of the day, it's all about sexual pleasure. So, we encourage you to listen to yourself and your partners, so you can have the best experience and hopefully experience some wonderful G-spot stimulation.
The pelvic floor
All the muscles between the pubic bone and the tailbone make up the pelvic floor. For that reason, it's important to have a strong pelvic floor if you want to support your sex organs and decide when to urinate and pass wind. In addition to these basic bodily functions, strong pelvic floor muscles can also help you experience stronger and longer orgasms. If you care about having a healthy and strong body (or better sex), you owe it to yourself to do some kegels or grab a good pelvic floor trainer.
Useful to know
The body has many erogenous zones, all of which can grant great bodily and spiritual pleasure. The orgasm itself isn't really the peak – it's the entire buildup that's important. That's also why techno as a genre (complete with all its subgenres in electronic music) has been so popular over the years. Techno is about building to climax so that when the drop actually comes, it's all the more satisfying. You may also have heard the saying that it's not about the destination but about the journey.
Experiment, don't be afraid to ask, be open and curious, find out what you like and share it with your partner(s) – and we promise that sex can be much more than just a quick path to orgasm.
Enjoy!
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