How to use a strap on

Have you been dreaming of using a strap on dildo, but aren’t quite sure how to get started? Then read our beginner guide and get inspired

What is a strap on?

A strap on dildo is a dildo you can wear or strap on. This means a strap on consists of a minimum of two parts; the dildo itself, and the device you use to fasten it to your genital area. This device is called the harness.

Who can use a strap on?

A strap on can be worn by everyone, but is most often worn by people without a penis. With a strap on dildo, it is possible to experience the sensation of having a penis, or penetrating someone else during sex.

Which one should I choose?

When choosing a harness, always pick the one that fits you the best. The harness is the part you attach the dildo to, and is usually formed to look like underwear or a set of straps. The harness should be tight enough so that the dildo doesn’t start sliding around or is hard to control. Our harness fits you like a pair of panties, comes in different sizes and is adjustable by using the straps on the back. At the front is a hole, in which you place the dildo. Please beware that when buying the harness and the dildo, the two must be compatible. In this category everything is compatible, so there is no risk of buying the wrong thing.

A good dildo

First and foremost, you should consider the look and feel of your dildo. It’s important that you like how it looks, especially if it is supposed to be an extension of your body. Next, you should consider the size. Dildos can feel a bit harder to be penetrated by than a biological one, so if you are new to the world of dildos, it’s better to start small and then increase the size later on.

It’s fine to get a head start

If you have never tried a harness or a strap on before, it can be a good idea to try it out, before trying it with a partner. Start by simply wearing the harness around, and then place the dildo in the harness. Move it around, so both harness and dildo is placed in the way that suits you the best. Some like it when the bottom of the dildo is placed right on the pubis (that part where pubic hair grows right above your genitals), while others like it when it pushes against the clitoris. You also have the option of some added pleasure with this “cushion”, the bumpher, which stimulates the wearer of the harness. Lastly we can recommend just walking around with the harness and dildo on, so you can get a feel for it.

Get going!

When using your strap on with a partner, always remember to start slow and use plenty of lube. It can be a good idea to let your partner guide you to the right tempo. Try working out how your position and the pace of your thrusts work together. If you don’t have that much experience, it can be a little challenging at first, but try it out and don’t be afraid to change position. Maybe your partner can sit on top for a bit. Or you could change up the pace of your thrusts, or the depth. It doesn’t have to be the same for the entire duration.

And remember, when trying something new, it's completely fine to laugh, no one is an expert at the first try.

Enjoy yourselves and have fun

You should also give our guide on anal sex, or the guide on lube a read